the pain that defines us.. leaving us speechless.

"Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future." - Robert H. Schuller

When the pain sinks in and all things are dark and confusing, you're surrounded by questions, all of which begin with a simple "Why?" I can't answer for what you're going through, I can't give you the strength to walk through the flames, I can only explain that it gets better. Usually the pain subsides because you've found an outlet for things, you've figured out an escape whether it be great or small.

This could apply to your divorce, losing a child, the feelings of insignificance. It's all the same in your heart, it all turns black in the end, though it's your choice to figure whether you want it black or not. You've got to pick yourself up eventually, strive for a better purpose, your resolve will grow with the strength you find from things that matter, not things that try to bury you but the things that try to pick you up. I've been there where you are; it's dark, cold, and desolate. You choose to isolate yourself from things that really do matter in order to keep a facade that you'd rather have people see. You'd rather them see a fake smile versus tears all over the floor, you'd rather them see someone who could give a damn less that they're broken: pretending everything is alright versus a man crying in another mans arms. We're creatures of deceit.

We all have our own ways of dealing with problems, I'm not saying take them and bury them deep down inside, keeping them far from the reaches of everyone. I'm saying keep the cards you're dealt with, keep them and see what fortune you can muster up through the flames, push harder, push stronger. Find your strength in the good things that surround you, not what tries to overcome you but what has always consistently been there for your. Your love, your hopes, your dreams - Your children, your family, your spouse, the work you have attained. Don't let what's trying to kill you keep you down, don't let the pain hold you forever.

"You could be looking for love in a stranger's arms and that love could be all you need to heal." - Ryan D.